We are still unaware of what is in the store for us in future. Yeah! That’s life. As young adults we may not be knowing as to who we are going to marry, still we have made a pretty good list of qualities we are searching for. And if you are in a serious relationship and not just dating, then you probably found some qualities you were looking for in your would be partner.
We are not in the teenage zone, we are the young adults who should be able to take good life decisions which they would cherish in future.
“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved, loved for ourselves, or rather, loved inspite of ourselves -Victor Hugo”
Soooooooo, Here you go!
- Is quite Intelligent.
Smart people are rare to find. And if you have got one, hold on to it. Smart and Intelligent people don’t just offer insightful advice, they also help you make some great life choices. Yes! We often need a guidance of someone who is intelligent than us, and if you could find that in your partner itself then that’s awesomeeee!!
2. Unconditional Love.
You have read it in every article which you came through, didn’t you?
Because that’s 100% true! The funda is simple – Do your mom demand anything in return for the help she gives you 24*7? NO.
Your father fulfilled all the wishes you had as a child, didn’t he? Even now he sees your ambition as his own. He gives you all the assistance he could.
Your sister/brother, it would be the 1000th fight you may be having with him/her- still your bond is unbreakable.
Why? Why? Why?
Because they don’t demand anything in return. They are selfless. They are always helpful. They consider your problem as their own, and when it is that way then, there has to be a solution for every problem.
Likewise, Your partner should treat you like his/her family member and do all the stuffs he/she would do for his/her family. May it be, making difficult choices in life, buying you a stuff that you always needed (NEEDED, and not WANTED), fulfilling your aspirations, sharing golden memories with you, etc etc, the list is infinite. Hope you got the point.
3. You don’t want unnecessary restrictions in your life, do you?
The person you marry should be calm and cool by heart. He/she should be easy going and should not be putting unnecessary restrictions on you, you don’t need that kind of negativity around.
You can ask any of your friend who is in a tough stage of relationship where his/her partner has lost trust and is constantly nagging, checking the phone, stalking, etc etc, life is already tough, you don’t want it to be any worse.
Your potential partner should be an understanding light hearted person, who is always looking for ways to make you happy. Ohh! That surprises from your better half is just so amazing and heartening.
You wanna go to a musical concert you love, and he wants to sit in and just enjoy the cricket semi-finals, but just to make you happy he misses the match and picks you up from office and you enjoy the concert together then you go on a dinner date and finish it with a delicious deserrt and some super romantic talks. That is the kind of guy you are looking for, isn’t it?
“And remember, as it is written, to love another person is to see the face of god – les Miserables”
5. Satisfies you in bed
Yes! Lets not hide it. Whether you accept or not, this is something really important.
If you are not satisfied with your partner in bed, then chances are you are going to find that pleasure somewhere else.
While you are in a long relationship you should be open in all ways with your partner. The conversation should be mature. And you should accept each others view points and desires.
6. Alcohol and socializing
Yeahh! Alcohol and socializing goes hand in hand. Parties are incomplete without alcohol. But at the end it is everyone’s personal preference about drinks.
Some enjoy drinks, some don’t. If your partner is not able to handle 4 shots of vodka and is making things embarassing for you then you should NOT drink at all rather than creating a scene after few shots.
You have 2 choices with you, either act as a babysitter or avoid those kind of situations.
7. Loves your Flaws
Showcasing his/her strength is fine, but he/she should be ready to accept your imperfections. That is where the essence of relationship lies.
He/she should be mature enough to understand that each person has his own qualities and strengths, accept it and groove onn!
8. Shares Same values
Having important things in common can help you build a strong ground for your future. Whether it be same field of profession, be it the number of childrens to have, or be it your favourite pizza, these are the things where you share your happiness together, deeply and truly.
You learn something new from each other. Whether it be teaching you how to use chopsticks, whether it be financial planni g for future,whether it be ice-skating. As long as something new comes your way, the spark between you is always onn. Amd you gain respect for each other.
Learning new things and cherishing it makes you grow internally. You both have some special skills which you can teach your better half and master it together.
9. Attraction is 70% SEXUAL and 30% MENTAL
Yess, thats true! When looking for a partner you just don’t say “I love you” to anyone. You may have seen something sexy in him which ignited the spark inside you.
And for boys, while proposing a girl you too analyse the things that match between you and only then you take the step. Compatability plays a crucial role in any relationship.
Also, when in a relationship, your soul’s conntection and physical satisfaction is as much important as your major life decisions. And mentally too you should connect well, because that is where the connection is complete- and your MIND and HEART meets.
10. Shares same qualities
There is a reason why, novelist marry novelist, CELEBRITIES marry CELLEBRITIES, CA marriy a CA, a businessman marry a businesswoman, etc etc etc, they share a common interest. And that is the ROOT of their relationship.
11. Brings out the best in you.
One question you should always ask before choosing your life partner is that, “Does this person make me any better?”
You are great, no doubt. But in life you find someone who brings out the super best version of yourself. The stone which was completely untouched and which you were completely unaware of. Like you never knew that you not just “liked” but “loved” playing guitar when she made you work hard on “play an instrumental” for her on her birthday.
Or when he told her to “Dance romantically” with him on the valentine’s day.
12. Loves your family.
Yess… Loves and not “Likes”. Likingbis a different thing. Love is what you need to sustain a relationship. And love not just between you, but between Him/her and your family.
The word “Our” Family is important. There should never be a situation like he only accepts you and not your family. Thats a strict NO NO! You do a lot of things for him, you leave your house and get into a all new world, you sacrifice so much, so he should not think just because you are with his family, your priority has changed. You love and miss your family even more. So he should instad understand that and find ways to surprise in-laws and make the relation with them cheerful and happy.
Same way, He also loves his family like the way you do, so if he does something BIG for his family then you should happily accept that because whatever he is, is because of them.
To sum up, there should not be any discrimination as to “My family” and “your family”, the word “OUR” just fills up the gap perfectly.
Trust is the root.
Problems are the locked door.
Happiness is the key.
Happiness comes from a happy relationship.
“The heart wants what it wants, there is no logic to it. You meet someone and you fall in love and thats that. -Woody allen.”
You survive tough times and rough winds and along the way you make memories. Memories to cherish and share. Choose a partner wisely, “who you think, you could bear for life long” (pun intended).
Happy. Alive. Pure. Blessed.
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